Understanding Funeral Etiquette
Understanding Funeral Etiquette
Understanding Funeral Etiquette: A Guide for Attendees
A helpful guide from Bales Funeral Home
When someone we care about passes away, attending their funeral or visitation is one of the
most meaningful ways we can show support to their loved ones. Still, many people feel unsure
about what to say or do at a service, especially if it’s their first time attending one. At Bales
Funeral Home, we believe that understanding funeral etiquette can help ease anxiety and allow
you to focus on what really matters: offering comfort and honoring a life well-lived.
Here are a few tips to help you feel more prepared and confident.
Arrive Early or On Time
Being punctual is a small but important way to show respect. Arrive at least 10 to 15 minutes
early. If you do arrive late, quietly enter and take a seat at the back to avoid interrupting the
service.
Dress Respectfully
Traditional funeral attire is conservative and dark in black, navy, or gray. You don’t have to wear
all black, but avoid loud patterns or casual clothing like jeans, shorts, or sneakers unless the
family has requested something different. Some families celebrate their loved one’s life with a
more relaxed dress code, so be sure to check beforehand if you're unsure.
Silence Your Phone
One of the simplest things you can do is to silence or turn off your phone before entering. A
ringing phone or text alert can disrupt a very emotional and sacred moment.
Express Condolences Simply
A sincere “I’m sorry for your loss” can go a long way. You don’t have to say much—your
presence alone speaks volumes. If you’re close to the family, a hug or handshake is
appropriate. If you don’t know what to say, just being there is enough.
Sign the Guest Book
Most services include a guest book at the entrance. Signing it not only shows your support but
also gives the family a record of everyone who came to honor their loved one.
Be Respectful During the Service
Follow the lead of the officiant or family. Whether it’s a moment of silence, a prayer, or a special
song, participating quietly and respectfully helps maintain the solemnity of the service.
Avoid Taking Photos
Unless you’ve been specifically asked by the family, it’s best not to take photos or videos during
the service. These are intimate moments, and privacy should always be respected.
Follow Up Later
Sending a sympathy card or checking in on the family in the weeks after the service can be a
great comfort. Grief doesn’t end with the funeral, and ongoing support is often appreciated more
than people realize.
We're Here for You
At Bales Funeral Home, we’re here to help you every step of the way—whether you're planning
a service or simply attending to offer support. If you have questions about what to expect or how
to support a grieving family, don’t hesitate to reach out.
